Becoming comfortable with chaos
Updated: Aug 27, 2022
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
The words to my favorite prayer come to mind as I pen my new blog entry.
As someone who needs to be in control of literally everything in her life, this is easier said than done. But whether we want to admit it or not, the world is as uncertain as ever. There is no escaping the fact that the state of our world has become incredibly unpredictable.
Being organized, agile, and "in control" has always served me well before, particularly in my career. In addition to my passion for communications and writing, my project management skills, ability to manage my time well and ability to deliver on time have more or less helped me progress in my career. Where it is not serving me at all is in life!
Why? Well because I'm not a fan of chaos. At work, if things get out of hand, or if we are faced with an unexpected situation, I will always find a solution. In life, not so much. I don't have all the answers when it comes to life, and that is something that makes me uncomfortable.
This got me thinking that I can't be the only one that feels this way. So what can we do to become comfortable with the chaos?
Life is not perfect. We are going to face many ups and downs. Accepting this fact is the first step to enabling you to better face life's challenges.
2. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel.
If you are feeling down one day, so be it. If you are tired and need time alone, take it. If you need to cry, do so. Accept your emotions, express them, and then get back on track.
3. Control what you can.
I might not have control over the world, but I can control some aspects of mine. I can commit to waking up earlier every morning to take quiet time for myself before facing work, and life. I can commit to eating healthier and exercising so that I have a better quality of life, both for my physical and mental health. Controlling what you can within your own world will help you regain a sense of normalcy and routine.
4. Take it one day at a time.
We are all human and we are all trying our best, and that includes you! Be easy on yourself, and take it one day at a time. Some days you will do better than others, and that's fine. Just keep going.
5. Ask for help when you need it.
We are all on this journey together, and you don't have to do it alone. When you feel overwhelmed, reach out to a friend, a family member, a colleague, or a professional and ask for help. Put your ego aside, and reach out to others, and you'll be surprised and how much easier life becomes.